22.5.05

Okay two things-

1. I have this friend, who has not hardly talked to me at all since like December. Actually it is a guy, and I a mowondering, if he hasn't talked to me, because we kinda had this weird fling. And I kinda put an end to it, though, my understanding is that the end was mutual. And we laughed it off, saying we would still be best friends and all.

he hasn't talked to me since. in fact, he doesn't even say hi to me very often. or call me. basically I am feeling very excluded, as if we are in a fight or something? and it is bugging me. So, any suggestions on what to do. I would love you all more than normal.

2. Alright, this sucker is going down in spanish.

hay un chico en la iglesia que me gusta un poquito. Tiene un corazon por Jesucristo, es muy amable, y muy divertido... y mas. A veces él es como un adulto, pero muchos veces, es mas como un chico. Como está en el colegio ahora, pero él está en la universidad. Y, este es el problema. Él tiene 20 años. Yo quiero saber, es muy viejo para mi? o está bien?

Quiero su adviso. Me importa mucho. MUCHO. quiero saber sus ideas, todas. Digame!

14 comments:

Anonymous said...

1. Leave it, people change, and your relationship changed too. Sometimes you can't keep those people in your life. Speaking from experience, if you try to keep any sort of relationship after a "fling" then it becomes really awkward, and even though you can act like the whole thing never happened, it will still be there, and your relationship will never be quite the same as it was before.

2. I'm not sure how old you are, but i'm guessing this guy is only a few years older than you. If it seems like it is a big age difference to you, then it probably is and maybe you should wait a few years until it doesn't seem like a big deal. If you are comfortable with it, and so is he, then i don't think there's a problem.

nathan said...

1. I say who cares and call him and keep being his friend unless he tells you otherwise. Make an effort to spend time with him, and make it obvious. He is probably thinking the same thing you are. or maybe not, but it can't hurt to try.

2. your spanish is going to limit who can advise on this one. haha. pienso que si el esta en la universidad, no hay tiempo para ustedes ser novios. necesitan mas tiempo que un verano. el va a irse a la universidad in menos que tres meses. es mi opinion. i rock at espanol!

Dr. Austiagon said...

1. I disagree with anonymous, while I think people and situations both change, sometimes in is just circumstances. I know I wasn't really hanging out with my school friends (phil,kevin,jessica,lauren,etc..) for a while back, but I debilerately tried to do more things with them, and it worked, I am now spending lots of time with them. I think it also depends on how serious the "fling" (i despise using quotes but oh well) if you guys were really serious, like going steady for a long time then it is harder to come back from that, but short 2 week relationships usually on cause a temporary rift. And if it was short, then it tends to be more mutual (not enough time for serious damage). It is a definate possiblity that he might feel hurt, he could have also changed, or he might just be going through some trials. I am one of those people that refuses to give up on people though (yay Judging Amy).
2. There is no number two, I was too lasy to translate.
3. I just used all forms of the "to,two,too" in number 2.

Ryan said...

i donno about you but if he is 20 thats pretty old and he is already going thru points in life that you havent experienced, so it will be hard to understand what he is going thru and you will most likely feel distanced from him, its really not worth it i dont think but its not my choice to make

Sarah said...

1. It's a two way street. You can't just blame it on him. Sometimes friendships take work, and if you want it to continue then you need to do something about it. Don't leave it up to him for months and months and then start complaining about it.

Also, I don't think anyone can blame a deteriorating relationship on one instance or situation. If you feel like the relationship is falling apart, there have to be more contributors than just a "fling" from several months ago.

My advice? Talk to him instead of doing that indirectly on your blog. Saves a lot of time.

2. Age differences are not your friend in high school. I agree with anonymous on this one.

Sara without an H said...

exijadoro.

alright alright, Sarah. I will talk to him. Lordy.

and the whole spanish thing... meh. i don't actually really like him I guess. I mean, you are all right, he is in college and that sort of thing. I was thinking about that last night and it was like, okay, I can't even get one of the junior guys to ask me out let alone a guy in college... so oh well. it was still nice to dream about for a whole of ... three days.

nathan said...

don't beat yourself up about it. like i said on the way home, i have never ever had a girlfriend, but that is the way God made it to happen. Someday He will fix me up and you too.

Sara without an H said...

yaaay nathan! i love you. and your car. because audrey is awesome. you are calling her audrey right?

Sarah said...

I thought his guitar was Audrey.

Connor Walsh said...

guitar is amber

car is.... hmm i dont know if hes decided yet, we were still talking about it the other day

Sarah said...

Oh. I knew it was an A name.

Anonymous said...

I don't speak Spanish but I would say that the age gap only makes a different is affection is one-sided. It's perceived as "juvenile" if a young girl likes an older guy and he doesn't like her. If the older guy likes the younger girl, he's suddenly "creepy" or pedophilic. I think age matters most when feelings aren't mutual. When I was in 10th grade, I dated a twenty-year-old college student. We went out for almost a year. It ended up not working out (not because of age but because of personal goals) but we're still really close friends and we talk all the time. Personal maturity on both sides has to be measured and it's always good if your families are involved in your relationship. Good luck.

nathan said...

yes. bass is amber. car is audrey. i like "A" names i guess.

Sara without an H said...

kudos to jake on the car's name.